There’s more to “I DO”

Before a man and a woman agree to be joined as husband and wife, I suppose they would have individually counted the cost, looked beyond the present and made the decision. I’m not married but I know that marriage is a WHOLE LOT. It’s not all about saying “I do” and all your dreams come true.

The reason we hear a lot about clashes, hullabaloos and divorces in marriage points back to not thinking beyond “I Do” and that’s why courtship is more like a requirement in most churches today. Most times, the underlined cause could be so minute or insignificant to eye witnesses, outsiders and even the media such as; the husband putting his two legs on the bed while sleeping but the wife prefers sleeping with just half of her body so the bed sheet doesn’t get rumpled and then each time he does that she nags, there’s a little clash here and there and BOOM “divorce”(Tbh I’ve never heard of that but reasons similar happens๐Ÿ˜…).

There’s a whole lot of similarities between earthly marriages and being a bride of Christ:

This statement is usually said when a couple is about to be joined in holy matrimony and this means a lot. It states that even in the toughest of all conditions, they’ll both stay strong, endure together and conquer together. The reason we believers turn away from Christ or throw cuss words at Him when things are not working out well is because we never understood first that following Christ demands a lot of cross-bearing. In Romans 8:35-39, Apostle Paul knew the basis of His love and declared (paraphrased) “for better for worse, in sickness and in health, I’m married to Christ till we meet in eternity”. For the physical marriage, it’s only death that does the separation (Luke 20:35 says no marrying in heaven for those who have become His). Marriage either ways requires commitment, consecration, submission etc.


But grow in grace, and in the knowledge of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ. To him be glory both now and for ever. Amen.

2 Peter 3: 18 kjv

Imagine getting married to someone you entirely know nothing about (like no courtship, nothing at all). Everyday would be weird I guess and then you’ll definitely have no choice than to build a relationship with that person knowing you’re going to stay there forever. Okay, I understand the concept of forced marriages but surrendering to Jesus is and would always be a personal decision and so our relationship with Him is very important. We shouldn’t act like we were forced to give him our hearts. Our relationship with Christ determines our intimacy and just like relationships grow in marriages, so would our relationship with Christ grow if we stay in it.


It’s the joy of every one that their homes be filled with children. Blessed be the Lord the giver of them. Being fruitful is synonymous to productivity. No spouse would sit down and hail the other for laziness or idleness and even the book of proverbs speaks a lot about that. (Proverbs 19:15 Slothfulness casteth into a deep sleep; and an idle soul shall suffer hunger). Christ too demands that His brides bear fruit, are productive, and diligent. (John 15:16 He has called us to bring forth fruits and that it remains. This would definitely please Him).


The bible describes this as Adultery. It also says it doesn’t become Adultery when the act is committed but even when (lust) conceived in the heart (Romans 1:32 “….. they which commit these things are worthy of death, not only do the same, but have pleasure in them that do them”). Loyalty and faithfulness is the pride of every spouse and most importantly God. He demands we give Him our undivided attention. He says that we don’t put any god before Him and if we’re placing our food, sleep, phone, chats, fashion, business or whatever it is more than Him, then it’s a god and we’re cheating on Him.


(Matthew 19:6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder). Let me divert a little.. I was inquisitive and read an article on why couples begin to look alike when they get married and found out some funny scientifically proven reasons that seemed convincing but that’s not the point anyway . When we surrender to Christ, He lives in us. You can imagine Him dwelling in as many all over the world that have surrendered to Him and even you reading this!

Now this is something supernatural that can only be understood by God’s wisdom. It indeed is a great mystery.

When I first made the decision of surrendering to Christ, I never looked beyond the present. I thought everything was all going to be rosy, me bouncing in Christ, no challenges, no spiritual warfare (I didn’t know much of the bible) and differences. I didn’t realize there were going to be times I’lld have to drop some habits not because I want to but because of whom I now belong to. Now by His grace it’s getting clearer, better and I’m loving every single day despite the challenges and temptations that come with the day because Christ is my hope and He’s leading me all the way!

One amazing thing is that it’s never too late. I wouldn’t say if it is or isn’t for married couples but to be Christ’s bride, I’m so certain it’s not. It’s not too late to retrace your steps, say “I do” to His request and live the life he has called you to, growing everyday by His grace.

While we were yet sinners Christ died for us. No love can ever supercede that of Christ’s. It’s only in Him we find satisfaction and for every happy marriage, Christ is the foundation.


8 thoughts on “There’s more to “I DO”

  1. Thank you for this, Sis Lydia, May God give you more wisdom and depth. I hope to see an updated post on โ€œI Doโ€ few years from now.
    When we say โ€œI doโ€ to Christ, we are not only saying Yes to Him, weโ€™re also saying NO to the world

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  2. โ€œThe reason we believers turn away from Christ or throw cuss words at Him when things are not working out well is because we never understood first that following Christ demands a lot of cross-bearing.โ€
    This really struck meโ€ฆ Awesome post!!!

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